{"id":11161,"date":"2022-10-24T21:56:06","date_gmt":"2022-10-24T21:56:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/jsuflash\/?p=11161"},"modified":"2022-10-24T21:58:33","modified_gmt":"2022-10-24T21:58:33","slug":"student-recounts-her-domestic-violence-experience","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/2022\/10\/24\/student-recounts-her-domestic-violence-experience\/","title":{"rendered":"Student recounts her domestic violence experience"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nadia Greene<br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Staff Writer<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While many students, staff and alumni at Jackson State University are celebrating the founding of the institution and the joy of homecoming, October is also a time to bring awareness to the serious issue of domestic violence.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to the National Statistics Domestic Violence Facts Sheet:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On average, 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1 in 7 women and 1 in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimate partner violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crimes<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Domestic abuse is not limited to romantic relationships but also familial relationships as well. The abuse can deal with physical, emotional, sexual, psychological, or economic trauma. It has no connection to specific gender, race, sexual orientation, or religious specific.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some of the most common signs of domestic abuse include:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Your partner finds enjoyment in embarrassing you in front of others.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner downplays your accomplishments to keep control of feelings .\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner becomes more aggressive (pinching and shoving).<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner begins to follow you to make sure you\u2019re telling the truth.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner pressures you into things sexually.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner places the blame on you for small things to ignite a reaction.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner makes you feel like there was no way out of the relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A senior music education major from Atlanta, Ga. recounted her experience with domestic abuse in her past relationship. She said it was a blindsiding experience that she never saw coming.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIt\u2019s something you ignore until you get in that situation yourself,\u201d the Georgia native said. \u201cYou pass judgment saying, oh, that\u2019ll never be me. When it does all you can think is, oh my God, this is happening to me.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As she recounted the events that took place in the relationship, she acknowledged that it gradually got worse as time went by.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cHe was very sweet in the beginning, then it started off small like he would grab me up when I didn&#8217;t listen to him all the time or when we argued. That&#8217;s how it was for a while because most of it was mental in the beginning,\u201d she said. \u201cHe&#8217;d make it seem like nobody would want me or people didn&#8217;t have my best interest at heart. My friends were my enemies and making new ones was something he didn&#8217;t like me to do.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She added, \u201cAfter a while, it got to me and I started to isolate myself from everybody, including my family. That&#8217;s when things took a turn for the worse. That&#8217;s when I met the real man behind the mask,\u201d she said.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She expressed regret after she isolated herself from her friends and family. There were very few moments when she felt safe in her own relationship. She said she felt a sense of relief when she was forced to return home and could leave her boyfriend.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cHe would beat me on a regular basis and it was easy because I was isolated from everybody, but when people were around, we were really good at hiding it. Part of me wanted somebody to catch on but I didn&#8217;t want anybody to get hurt on account of me so I suffered in silence,\u201d she recounted. \u201cI had to move out and go back home but after a while, I started to feel safe. He\u2019d blow up my phone or pop up to my job so I had to get a restraining order on him and that was the scariest part because I didn&#8217;t know what he&#8217;d do.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_11168\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-11168\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-11168 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-300x200.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-300x200.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-630x420.jpeg 630w, https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-150x100.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-696x464.jpeg 696w, https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-1068x712.jpeg 1068w, https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-768x512.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-1024x683.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3-1536x1024.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/0-3.jpeg 1902w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-11168\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photo: Monica McGhee<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She added, \u201c Now I&#8217;m better and the PTSD is still there but therapy was something that helped me and continues to do so. It&#8217;ll be a while before I date again but at least I&#8217;m free.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taimont Johnson, a senior journalism and media studies major from Atlanta, Ga. said he has never experienced domestic abuse in relationships but he sympathizes with victims he has witnessed in those types of situations.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIt is sad to see because even though you want to help them, that fear is used to keep them stuck in place. I remember watching this girl on TikTok telling her story and it really gave me a different perspective because for the longest, I couldn&#8217;t understand why they just wouldn&#8217;t leave,\u201d said Johnson.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Robin Alton, a senior civil engineering major from Wellford, S.C., believes there are multiple reasons a person might stay in an abusive relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0\u201cVictims feel like they won\u2019t find anyone better and it will get to the point where the victims will start to believe that they deserve the treatment,\u201d said Alston.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Students experiencing domestic abuse in relationships can visit the Latasha Norman Center on the 2nd Floor of the Student Center or call 601-979-0374. You can also call the 24-hour National Domestic Violence Hotline\u00a0 at 1-800-799-7233. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nadia Greene Staff Writer While many students, staff and alumni at Jackson State University are celebrating the founding of the institution and the joy of homecoming, October is also a time to bring awareness to the serious issue of domestic violence.\u00a0 According to the National Statistics Domestic Violence Facts Sheet: On average, 20 people per [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":11168,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-11161","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-events"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11161","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11161"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11161\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11178,"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11161\/revisions\/11178"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11168"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11161"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11161"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.jsums.edu\/theflash\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11161"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}